You’re in control

It pains me to see how many people are totally unaware of how much control we truly have over our lives. I have written post similar to what I am about to write, but I’d like to go more in depth with what I have learned in my life. About 99% of American society is made up of complainers, who constantly go on and on about how bad they have it and what is wrong with their lives. What these people fail to realize is that they can fix almost anything that they perceive as their troubles.

When people complain to me about things that they perceive as unchangeable, I tell them very bluntly to simply fix their problems. Often, they tell me that these problems aren’t fixable. 9 times out of 10, this is completely false. Tell me a problem you have with your life that can’t be fixed? While you may not be able to directly fix one specific problem, such as something you are born with, you can work on things that will help to solve the big picture problem. So you perceive yourself as physically ugly? Something you can’t change right? Wrong. Sure you can’t directly change your bone structure or skin type, you can however change other properties that make a person attractive such as your body type. Hit the gym, get in better shape than your average person and that already sets you above the average population. You say you don’t have any friends and/or socially awkward? Pick a person or group of people who you perceive as having the social ability you desire and study them.

I truly believe that the biggest difference between people who succeed and get what they want is simply deciding what they want to do and as cliche as it sounds, “just do it.” If you think about it, going after what you want already gives you a leg up on the average population because so many people discount themselves and sell themselves short because they think that they are not capable or a particular job is a job for someone else. For example, many leadership positions limit a ton of competition just because most people tell themselves they can’t do it. I have seen this first hand countless times and the people who get them are usually the ones who know they can perform the job better.

I’m going to keep this short and end this with these closing remarks: Think long and hard about the things you don’t like about your life. I highly doubt through properly thinking the issue out that you cannot change and improve your situation. People tend to dwell on their problems rather than taking action. Focus on what you can change and improve your situation, otherwise be content with your life.

RGM